In each of us lies an inner critic. This ‘inner critic’ comes off as a manifestation of negativity, leaving us drain, exhausted, and unhappy. We all have to deal with our inner critical voice one time or another – you are not good enough, you need to work harder, and you need to self-improve. Thereafter, as you try to work harder, spending couple of hours to rest, he comes back telling you that you could use this time with purpose. Vacations become a real challenge. Your friends start to hate you as you forget about simple things that bring satisfaction and bothering only about your personal growth. Is that mindfulness of something else?
Judging Mind: Is It Necessary for Self-Improvement
Mindfulness and judging mind are two different things. A mindful person is the one who knows how to work with available resources and how to manage time. A judging mind will never leave you time for having a rest or to enjoy some simple things. Even though a judging mind will always tell that you need to work on yourself, you will not be able to grow. There is a trick: when you enjoy what you do, you always do it better. When you struggle to do something, when you make yourself do it, the result is always worse than you may expect.
Still, you can turn your mind from being judging to be mindful. The funny thing is that a self-improvement strategy is involved here. There are 5 effective methods to become less of a judging type of a person, and grow mindfulness.
1. Master breathing techniques
Judging mind is always connected with tension and compression. Unfortunately, modern world presupposes living in tension. That is why meditation became so popular. However, meditation is quite a complicated practice. If you need some results right now, implement breathing practices. Make an inhale for 5-10 seconds; hold the breath for 2-3 seconds; make a long exhale (again, 5-10 seconds). You will need at least 5 minutes to calm down using breathing techniques.
2. Recall your state of mind during breathing practices
When you are breathing, think about nothing. Try to keep this feeling in your memory and recall it each time when you feel that you cannot longer stop blaming yourself. Calmness is a sister of mindfulness. People who know the ways of how to get themselves calm are better with making themselves mindful. Besides, can you imagine a person who always blame himself but remain calm?
When you keep a memory of this state of mind, you can remember it when the situations you need to calm down come. That is a quality of a real mindful person. So be attentive to your thoughts and your feelings, and work with them as you work with your mind.
3. Grow your kindness
Judging mind makes people mean. Mindfulness makes people kind. An evil person never actually self-improves. The matter is that self-improvement also comes from the communication with other people. When you are a mindful person, you listen to other people, you find something good in them, and you learn from them. When you are a judging mind type of people, you never listen to other people, you believe that no one can learn you something, and you lose precious experience.
4. Give more
Share your experience with other people. The process of sharing can bring you more experience and deeper understand of some things that achieving of this knowledge. You start to analyse, to define things which are really important, and lead to the unexpected conclusions.
5. Take your emotions under control
To become a mindful person, you need to be aware of your emotions. Do not let yourself blow up with the tiniest problem. If something goes wrong, calm down and start to think about the problem. If that does not help, find some inspiration. Negative emotions are the quickest way to dive into the judging and start to hate and blame yourself.
Why does self-improvement come with mindfulness?
For a judging mind, self-improvement is a result. For a mindful person, self-improvement is a process. When there is not result, a judging mind starts to demand more, and it does not matter that you are now just in the middle of making something better. Besides, a judging mind always wants quick results. With self-improvement, quick results never come.
You cannot self-improve without being mindful, and you cannot be mindful and never work on self-improving. These two things are connected, and you need to find a way to keep a balance between them.
In conclusion, we need to highlight that being a mindful person is a part of self-improvement. You cannot grow your mindfulness just with the desire to become mindful. The most complicated work is the work on yourself. So get ready to work hard, grow your mindfulness and never stop your self-improving.
The author’s name is Lori Wade. She is a tutor and a freelance/content writer for Thriving Writer who is interested in education, blogging and sharing her ideas. She has a degree in Journalism and is a frequent contributor to several publications and websites. If you are interested in writing, you can find her on Twitter or Google+ or find her in other social media.
*Disclaimer: The ideas and opinions expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not reflect the view of Zensorium.
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